There is a social media post going around, that I technically don’t want to share because, hopefully, it was written in a bad place. Something a caregiver would like to forget that they had said and done on a very public forum.
Essentially, he or she was musing on the lack of connection and “innate self centered-ness” of autistic people, and that their child would never love them and it was all about “yellow lights, fairy princesses, silly repetitive cartoons, and chewelry.”
Now I understand being tired, but yellow lights, fairy princesses, and silly repetitive cartoons still sounds pretty damn great.
And my beautiful boy is the most affectionate little guy I’ve ever known autistic or not. He finds all the non-verbal ways to show affection and love. He kisses my cheek about fifty times a day. Pets my arm or holds my face to show he misses me or loves me.
I wish I could hear his voice. I wish it everyday. But connection and affection is more than just language. Listen harder, my friend.